tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6929593101581875350.post5238740093974385760..comments2023-03-24T21:32:31.560-07:00Comments on But Now I'm Found: It's ComplicatedJenniferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15223296092716442571noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6929593101581875350.post-50967032995761274592010-01-20T08:31:57.211-08:002010-01-20T08:31:57.211-08:00Ditto on the other comments - my family is just en...Ditto on the other comments - my family is just entering into a situation like this - a relative by marriage found out that the mother who raised her is not really the mother but yet a relative of the biological mother and the mother who raised said child stole the child from the biological motherAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12670461716038876587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6929593101581875350.post-82954422477065840662010-01-14T06:33:53.915-08:002010-01-14T06:33:53.915-08:00I'm in agreement with the other commenters. If...I'm in agreement with the other commenters. If you're not ready to make a decision on disclosure yet, continue to gather information and document the history. <br /><br />It's a tricky choice and there's no easy answer.Amy Coffin, MLIShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00612044786240692282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6929593101581875350.post-20001400568634339012010-01-13T16:59:35.578-08:002010-01-13T16:59:35.578-08:00It is a tough call, I would agree to write it down...It is a tough call, I would agree to write it down and keep the information. You will have to decide who will be harmed versus what good will come of it...Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02714440790407126206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6929593101581875350.post-67981100347600045922010-01-13T15:18:28.348-08:002010-01-13T15:18:28.348-08:00I have a sort of similar story. There was no assau...I have a sort of similar story. There was no assault, that I know of, but I finally confirmed, through documentation that one uncle's oldest child was not biologically his. That part of the story isn't a problem since she was always recognized by my uncle and the rest of the family as his.<br /><br />The problem is that her daughter ended up marrying one of her cousins. But there are only a few folks in the family that even know any of this. I believe that everyone should know where they came from but in reality, it's totally different. What's to be gained by telling my cousin, who really isn't my biological cousin that you aren't who you think you are and your husband is your cousin.<br /><br />Tough call and many questions to be answered. I don't envy you.Mavishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10241988882011440597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6929593101581875350.post-57058352580204260622010-01-13T14:58:40.176-08:002010-01-13T14:58:40.176-08:00Oh Jennifer - I am in the same boat. My story is ...Oh Jennifer - I am in the same boat. My story is a stunner and too painful to even mention here. You need to put it in context when deciding for full, partial or non-disclosure. After 50 years, would disclosure heal a situation? Would it help prevent further pain or violence? Could you write up the situation and store it with your estate planning papers in case something happens to you - this way the story is not forever lost?Thomas MacEnteehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09925130637060406529noreply@blogger.com